R4 DS Cards Help & Support Forum

hi

i just bought a new DSi XL and with that i bought the R4i Gold card...

when i checked the internet i saw people with a fairly larger box than i have, because mine is about 8 cm tall, 6 cm wide, and 1 cm thick...
so i thought that was strange...

now when i tried to download every single piece of **** firmware of the internet, it still didnt work...

now i downloaded firmware from http://www.r4i-gold.eu/downloade.asp
it seems to work fine when you start it up, you get the menu, you can even config everything. but when you press game, everything will turn black with a red message saying: ''Please upgrade the hardware for support latest firmware''

now i need either help on fixing this problem, or i need someone to finally give me the right f*cking piece of firmware!!!

every time i download a piece of firmware from the site wich is displayed on the box, it will stop the download really shortly after 20% or something, and say its done, and when i try to extract it, it will say its broken, now ive also download like a million othe sites the firmware, and tried to use it, BUT NOTHING WORKS!!!

have i been screwed over? because i paid 180 euro's on the DSi XL and 20 euro's and the R4i Gold card...
wich means i f*cked up 200 euro's wich could ahve been used for allot of better purposes!!!

Specifications:
Nintendo DSi XL
Version: 1.4E
R4i Gold (box: R4i-GOLD Upgrade revolution for DS (NDSi XL/NDSi/NDSL/NDS) v1.4

i have followed every single advice i can find on the internet, but no-one can help... i hope you will help me here!